Fathers’ fears of paternity

December 02, 2017 08:45 PM

There is no doubt that a father’s connection to his children is one of the most profound relationships on Earth. A father’s role has never been limited to just being the financial provider of the family.

From the moment the father learns that his wife is pregnant, he becomes both happy and anxious. He starts wondering: Am I going to be a good example? How am I going to raise my child? How can I be a perfect father?

Fathers often escape the responsibilities associated with raising a child. Unfortunately, some men believe that their role in their children’s lives is limited to providing for them, while neglecting an important emotional aspect of the whole picture. Children’s personalities are shaped by a healthy relationship with both parents, and especially with the father.

Some fathers also believe that mothers are a better fit for raising the children, overlooking the fact that they can participate in most of the responsibilities of raising children, from taking a bath to spending quality time with them.

Additionally, a father may fear that with the arrival of the newborn, his wife will be busy, and that as a couple, they will lose the romance. The change in routine is a huge one, especially with the baby crying.

Here, we give you some tips that may help your husband overcome his fears:

  • Ask your husband to be present during all of the visits to the doctor during your pregnancy. Being there will reassure your husband and make him feel that he is a big part of your pregnancy journey right until the baby is born.
  • Ask your husband to speak to the unborn baby inside your womb, as this will familiarize the fetus with the voice of his father.
  • Talk to your husband about his concerns and fears, so that you can reassure him.
  • Whenever your husband participates in taking care of the baby, try to encourage him, and tell him how much you appreciate his help.
  • Have your husband spend time with the baby to become more aware of the demands of parenting and how to deal with them.
  • Avoid giving your husband harsh criticism if he makes mistakes, as this would discourage him from being there for you whenever you need him.
  • Assure your husband that you want your children to be just like him, and that you want him to be their role model.